Well a lot has happened since February 6, 2009. We were off
for a weekend on the boat. I probably
did not get lucky because I had not been lucky in a long time. In the fall of
2007 I was diagnosed with prostate cancer and the treatment left me impotent. I
was 72 at the time and was disappointed I had a sexless future. A couple years or so after the treatment
process, I began to think I might could perform but SW (swinger Wife) was
beginning to have lubrication problems due to the absence of regular sex. We
continued to touch, kiss, cuddle, fondle and finger but had to eliminate
fingering. I would go from very short periods of being horny to not really
caring about sex. We rationalized we had
a lot more sex than most people both with just ourselves and others. It was
better to be alive.
From mid-2009 until April 2015 we went about enjoying each
day we had with each other. We sold the
boat and that was a sad day. We liked the couple who bought it and think she
was in good hands. However I cried when I watched her sail away. We were
involved with the Parrotheads and enjoyed meeting new friends. We even won
tickets to as Jimmy Buffet concert in Tampa. Gave the tickets to our son and
daughter and they had a very good time. Life was good. Our sunny days were
spent naked by and in the pool. We traveled to see family and friends. Had a
Great grandson born and a Granddaughter graduate from the same college where
her mother and SW attended.
April 3, 2015 changed my life forever. SW had a surgery to
correct a hiatal hernia. Because this
was a second repair, she required a full abdominal opening. This went well and
she was up and about the next morning and appeared on the road to recovery.
Then on the fourth day she developed pneumonia and long story short from there
to another upper respiratory infection, to a ventilator and downhill from
there. We had promised each other we would not let the other suffer so with
family present on April 22, 2015 we stopped the ventilator and she died 45
minutes later. We would have been married 59 years in November.
I continued to live
alone for over a year. My son lives
about an hour away but my two daughters are a little over 600 miles. I still
drive so can visit when I want too. I also check in with the grandson who has
the great grandson and I spend Christmas and other holidays with them. They
have added another son to the mix. I attended
I moved to a senior
living apartment and have made many friends here. The thing I have observed is
most relationships (among the single widow/widowers) is very distant or very
close. The distant part is okay with me but I would like one or more that are a
little closer. So I have reached out to a senior dating site. I have met three
women I have had dates with and whom I would hope to have more dates and maybe
become close friends. That is my reason for starting to write the blog again. I
thought I could share this journey and if anyone reads this blog I would hope
for some feedback. I already know dating for a 82 year old widower is far
different than for a 20 year old college guy.
